At different stages of lives ...Last week, i met up with these friends and fellow sergeants and brothers in my life.
From left (Jacky, Sam, myself, and Aaron)Its really been quite some time since we last met up. The last time we met together in this manner was last year when Sam got married. Sam is 2 yrs older than me, and he is my first friend who got married, my first time driving the 'sisters' car and eating bitter gourd, drinking lime juice...
The 4 of us were training to become a sergeant in Paya Lebar Air Base, through Advanced Section Leader Course (ASLC). However, our friendship grew much after we passed out from the course. Although we all serve at different locations in the air base, we grew closer whenever we share about our happenings in our respective roles.
During the Uni Camp'08 on St. John's Island 2 weekends ago, I thanked Aaron for inviting me to Hope Church in March 2005. Looking back, after 3 years, i am totally amazed by how God had used him to bring me to Him. So many things had happened in these 3 years, these changes in my life, character, attitudes towards people, the values i hold, would not have occur, if Aaron did not approach me with courage when he asked me directly whether i want to attend church service. I thank him for the prayers he had made to God for me, that i may be touched by God's love for me. Thank him for teaching me the understanding of this relationship with God, follow-upping with my growth and questions about God. Without that invitation from him in 2005, my life will be different from what i am experiencing now. Probably i will be more self-centered, self-oriented, self-conscious, aimless, ...
Jacky and I were both invited by Aaron to church around the same time in 2005. And now i am glad to hear that he is growing well in the Adults group. I am sure it is very different experience with God for him as a working adult, having to face the pressure of the world, challenges.
At night, we went to vivo city to eat at SuperDog! And after the dinner, Sam brought us to a place he says is "good to bring our future life partner there..." haha! I shall not disclose the location of this "romantic" place, but its really a nice place to go, if one would like to enjoy the breeze and night scenery . . . Sam says: "one will be able to share very openly in such a setting" Currently the area is quite unknown to many yet... The 4 of us sat in the hut beside the coastline boardwalk, and started to recount our training stories 3 years ago, our superiors who trained us that time. After a while we started by talk about our choice for our future life partner. Sam started to share about his life as a married man, responsibilities as a husband, and the joy of having a godly wife...
Actually i have thought through about this issue quite some time ago. Still remember those channel 8 tv drama serial i watched during my early years. The lead actress will say something like : "Ni mei you gei wo an quan gan". Referring to money, qualifications, assets, strength. How much is enough? In this
ever-changing world we are living in, what would be unchanged? What does
'security in the relationship' mean today? When i was very young, i gave a certain 'standard' to my dream girl - long hair, does not wear spectacles, gentle... And there was this girl i liked and fit into my criteria, but one fine day she cut off her long hair and wore a pair of spectacles. That was the first time i heard of contact lens. Hmmm... That time i was both confused and sad of what has happened. Now, i have a new 'standard'. Instead of focusing on the looks, i want to look more into the character.
Looks can change, face will wrinkle, but the character remains deep inside a person.
Security?Meanwhile, I will also want to sharpen my values and character as a child of God, preparing/growing myself for whatever is ahead of me.
The world is ever-changing, yet our God is an unchanging God. With Him in our lives, we can live by a life that He has intended for us.
With God as our standard, the centre of our lives, many things come together. Who will that 'one' be? I don't know. God knows, He will reveal to me in due time.
But I guess this is the kind of
security that i want to assure my future life partner with.